Advice can arrive while you are feeding, opening a message or simply holding your baby. You do not have to evaluate every suggestion in the moment. First decide whether you want to hear more, acknowledge the person's intention or end the subject.
For an ordinary preference, a brief response may be enough: "We have found an arrangement that works for us right now." If the advice is about health or safety, you can say, "We will take that question to our care provider." Neither sentence promises that you will try the suggestion.
Separate curiosity from pressure
Sometimes a person asks whether you would like an idea and accepts no. That is different from repeatedly explaining why your choice is wrong. If you are interested, ask what the suggestion involves. If you are not, say so without supplying a long defence that invites a debate.
You may want a firmer boundary for repeated comments: "I do not want to discuss how we are feeding the baby during visits." Describe the topic or behaviour rather than labelling the person. If they continue, change the subject, step away or end the conversation.
A partner or support person can reinforce the same message. Agree on the words beforehand so the parent does not have to manage both the advice and a disagreement between adults. The support person should use the boundary the parent wants, not turn it into an argument on their behalf.
Keep helpful information available
Setting a boundary does not mean refusing all information. Save a suggestion you want to investigate and check it with an appropriate source later. Do not change medical instructions, feeding preparation or safety practices based solely on a confident anecdote.
Family traditions can deserve a more detailed conversation when you have the energy. Ask what the practice means to the person and consider whether there is a version you would like to keep. Respect for a tradition does not require agreeing to an action you do not want.
If messages become exhausting, mute the conversation or ask for advice only when you request it. You can reply, "We are keeping our phones quiet this week; please send ordinary family news instead." A boundary can be temporary and still be clear. Review it when you want to, rather than because someone demands an immediate explanation.
